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Countering Domestic Violence

Mid Central Community Action’s Countering Domestic Violence(CDV)/Neville House

Contact Neville House:
24 HOUR HOTLINE: 309-827-7070

This program, which operates in McLean County only, is designed to create safe, nurturing families free from violence and control through free and confidential services. CDV assists and empowers families in crisis situations with individual and group counseling for adults and children and serves as a community resource by providing awareness, advocacy, and education on the issue of domestic violence. As the only emergency shelter in the area, we can empower residents as they strive to accomplish their goals through assistance in areas such as domestic violence education, life skills training, transportation, medical assistance and parenting support.

CDV Confidential Services:

  • 24 Hour Hotline: 309-827-7070
  • Emergency shelter
  • Court advocacy
  • Counseling Services
  • Adult/Youth Support & Education
  • Community Awareness
  • Professional Trainings

COMMUNITY EDUCATION:

We believe that a community that is well-informed about domestic violence will lead to community members that are involved in finding solutions. Partnerships with other community organizations, businesses, agencies, churches and educational institutions are fundamental in our work. CDV staff is available for in-services, staff training, school dating violence prevention programs, and community presentations.

Please be alerted to the safety issues below regarding computer usage if you are a victim of domestic abuse.

Safety Alert for Battered Women: Computer use can be monitored and it is impossible to completely clear information viewed on the Internet from your computer. If you are in danger, please use a safer computer, call your local hotline at (309) 827-7070, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

Internet and Computer Safety

There are hundreds of ways that computers record everything you do on the computer and on the Internet. If you are in danger, please try to use a safer computer that someone abusive does not have direct access, or even remote (hacking) access to.

  • Use a safer computer.  It might be safer to use a computer in a public library, at a community technology center (CTC), at a trusted friend’s house, or at an Internet Cafe.
  • If you think your activities are being monitored, they probably, are.  Abusive people are often controlling and want to know your every move.  You don’t need to be a computer programmer or have special skills to monitor someone’s computer activities – anyone can do it and there are many ways to monitor.
  • Computers can provide a lot of information about what you look at on the Internet, the e-mails you send, and other activities.
  • It is not possible to delete or clear all computer “footprints”.
  • If you think you may be monitored on your home computer, you might consider no home Internet use or “safer” Internet surfing.  Example:  If you are planning to flee to California, don’t look at classified ads for jobs and apartments, bus tickets, etc. for California on a home computer or any computer an abuser has physical or remote access to.  Use a safer computer to research an escape plan.
  • E-mail is not a safe or confidential way to talk to someone about the danger or abuse in your life, please call your local domestic violence program hotline instead.
  • Traditional “corded” phones are more private than cellular phones or cordless phones.

40-Hr Domestic Violence Training

MCCA’s Countering Domestic Violence periodically presents a 40-Hour Domestic Violence.  Click here to register.

Topics covered include:

  • Dynamics and basic theories of domestic violence
  • Characteristics of abusers
  • DV and the legal system
  • DV and children
  • Religion and DV
  • Safety planning
  • Counseling DV victims and survivors
  • and much, much more.

CDV is an ICDVP training and supervisory site.


Interested in donating to CDV?

Please View the CDV Wish List!

Please call CDV Neville House at (309) 828-8913 before donating to our program.

 


Have I Been Abused?

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Has your partner done any of these things to you?

  • _Pushed or shoved you
  • _Held you to keep you from leaving
  • _Slapped or bit you
  • _Kicked or choked you
  • _Hit or punched you
  • _Thrown objects at you
  • _Locked you out of the house
  • _Abandoned you in dangerous places
  • _Subjected you to reckless driving
  • _Twisted your arm
  • _Threatened to hurt you with a weapon
  • _Tripped you
  • _Pulled your arm
  • _Banged your head against the wall
  • _Treated women as sex objects
  • _Tied you down
  • _Criticized you sexually
  • _Told you about his/her affairs
  • _Withheld sex and affection
  • _Insisted upon uncomfortable touching
  • _Had affairs with other women/men
  • _Forced particular unwanted sexual acts
  • _Forced sex after beating
  • _Called you names
  • _Ignored your feelings
  • _Blamed you for the violence
  • _Ridiculed or insulted women as a group
  • _Humiliated you in public or private
  • _Refused to socialize with you
  • _Abused pets to hurt you
  • _Took away your car keys or money
  • _Dampened your enthusiasm
  • _Controlled all the money 
  • _Not allow you to make any decisions
  • _Intimidated or belittled you 
  • _Showed sarcasm towards you
  • _Rejected you
  • _Refused to talk or listen to you
  • _Insulted you
  • _Intercepted your mail or phone calls 
  • _Made you upset or nervous about being a few minutes late
  • _Criticized you for the way you raise your children
  • _Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave
  • _Threatened to hurt you or your family
  • _Punished or deprived the children when he/she was angry with you
  • _Threatened to kidnap children if you left him/her
  • _Harassed you about affairs he/she imagined you are having
  • _Manipulated you with lies and contradictions
  • _Demeaned or put you down by saying you couldn’t manage without masculine help
  • _Kept your from working, controlled your money, or made all decisions about finances
  • _Withheld approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment
  • _Continually criticized you, called you names or shouted at you
  • _Insulted or drove away your family and friends
  • _Forced sex when you were sick or it was dangerous to your health
  • _Controlled you with his/her jealousy or possessiveness
  • _Publicly showed interest in other women/men
  • _Told anti-women jokes or made demeaning remarks about women
  • _Been jealously angry; assuming you would have sex with any available person
  • _Insisted that you dress in a more sexual way than you wanted
  • _Called you sexist names like “whore” or “frigid”

 


National Domestic Violence Hotline/Linea Nacional Sobre La Violencia Domestica: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

TTY For The Deaf/TTY para los Sordos: 1-800-787-3224

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